I Was Never Meant to Stay the Same

Shedding new skin as the days go by and becoming the woman I used to pray about.

Being in spaces that used to excite me doesn’t move me anymore. The energy, the people, and the environment all shifted… Well, at least for me it did. Graduating college really opened my eyes to how far I’ve come, how much I’ve grown, who’s no longer sitting at my table, and those who unexpectedly joined.

I think one of the hardest parts about growth is realizing everybody can’t grow with you. 

You meet people, build a connection, and everything is good… until it’s not. Maybe you bump heads over something big or small, either way, it shifts. Eventually, you start to see people for who they really are, their true colors, morals, values, and flaws.

And in that, you realize some people just aren’t meant to be in your circle anymore, not because of hate or anger, but because you don’t want that energy attached to your life. The cycle may repeat with different people you meet, but over time you start to understand that God places people in your life for a reason, to teach you lessons, to grow you, and sometimes, to let you go. 

Now I’m very intentional about who I allow around me.

Not everyone has good intentions towards you. Some people will test your character, while others will support you through whatever you’re going through. Personally, I know myself, my flaws and my “perfection”, so I understand the type of energy I want in my life. I always say I choose my friends based on how I see myself. Yes, I’m picky, because I truly believe birds of a feather flock together. You are who you surround yourself with.

If I see pieces of myself in someone, I know I’ll naturally get along with them, because like-minded people tend to connect. So I’ve become very intentional about the spaces I step into and the people I surround myself with, because this is my life, and it has to make sense. Connections built on authenticity matter the most to me.

I’m no longer shrinking myself to fit into spaces I’ve outgrown. At this point in my life, I’m choosing peace, growth, and alignment over everything else. I’ve learned that not everyone is meant to go where I’m going, and that’s okay. I’m becoming more comfortable with who I am, what I want, and the energy I allow around me.

This is me stepping into my next chapter, more intentional, more grounded, and more sure of myself. I’m not who I used to be, and I don’t plan on going back. I’m simply becoming her. And I finally understand: I was never meant to stay the same.